Terminally ill pets and their grieving families find comfort in hands of hospice
By Cheryl Anderson • Post-Crescent staff writer • May 2, 2010
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Ten years ago when Brenda Herubin and husband Bob adopted Woody, a yellow labrador/German shepherd mix puppy, Brenda thought she might have gotten more dog than she bargained for.
And she was right.
“Wonderful, wonderful,” is how the Clintonville woman now describes Woody. “Everyone says, oh my dog is so smart. But he does seem to be an intelligent animal. And you know labs, they like to please. He’s been great.”
When the couple learned in December that Woody had liver cancer, they understandably were devastated. They braced for the heartbreak to come.

Valarie Hajek Adams (right) director of Healing Heart Pet Hospice in Appleton, makes a house call to Woody, owned by Brenda Herubin of Clintonville. Woody has liver cancer. (Post-Crescent photo by Sharon Cekada)
Lisa Peters, emergency and critical care veterinarian at the Fox Valley Animal Referral Center in Appleton, suggested hospice care for the terminally ill dog.
Enter Valarie Hajek Adams, a certified veterinary technician and founder of the Appleton-based Healing Heart Pet Hospice.
“She is so respectful and warm, such a great listener and source of comfort,” Herubin said. “Someone who I didn’t feel foolish to cry and talk about what he meant to me. … And so she’s my safety net with (Woody).”
Pet hospice is based on human hospice, which began in the early 1970s as an alternative for terminally ill patients dying in hospital intensive care units while undergoing heroic but hopeless treatment. Hospice provides compassionate care to patients at the end of their lives and also supports families in the bereavement process.
Nearly identical to its human counterpart, the purpose of veterinary hospice is to maximize the quality of life for terminally ill or dying pets in their own home, to embrace owners’ decisions concerning the remaining time they have left with their pet and to give dying pets and the people who love them quality time together.
“It’s just a matter of respect,” said Hajek Adams, director of Healing Heart Pet Hospice and president of the Healing Heart Foundation. “It is my job to support you in a compassionate and loving way.”
A CVT since 1972, Hajek Adams has spent the last 14 years working in emergency and critical care at the Fox Valley Animal Referral Center. The job was an eye-opener.
“We witnessed animals that we could cure and heal and they’d go home and animals that perhaps were at the end-stage of a disease process and all people wanted to do was get them home for a little while instead of (have them) dying in a hospital,” she said.
Extending palliative care to the owners of pets seemed a given to Hajek Adams, who spent two years researching the topic and hooked up with others already practicing pet hospice. People like Alice Villalobos, a well-known pioneer in the field of cancer care for companion animals, founding member of the Veterinary Cancer Society and creator of Pawspice end-of-life palliative care.
There also was the Colorado State University’s Argus Institute, which offers support to people who are facing difficult decisions regarding their pet’s health, and Dr. Amir Shanan, who has offered animal hospice for more than 15 years as owner of Compassionate Veterinary Care of Chicago.
Hajek Adams and a colleague also attended ThedaCare hospice training through ThedaCare at Home and found all the information concerning human hospice completely transferable to pets.
Research completed, Hajek Adams recommended starting pet hospice at the referral center, which fully supported the idea, but had just launched an ophthalmology department and, from a business standpoint, had to decline.
One of the veterinarians there suggested starting a nonprofit organization and backed the suggestion with a donation. Healing Hearts Foundation was launched with the premise it would sponsor programs honoring the spirit of the human/animal bond. The first program was the pet hospice, which began in May 2008. Also planned are a program on pet loss and bereavement and another on medical and financial aid for veterinary hardship cases.
Healing Heart Pet Hospice, which leases space at Fox Valley Animal Referral Center, is comprised of Hajek Adams and fellow CVT Christy Rach, Peters and Lisa Flood, also an emergency and critical care veterinarian. Forming a doctor/client/patient relationship is mandatory per Wisconsin law.
Once hospice is called, a CVT conducts an at-home assessment. The hospice care team then meets to discuss the pet, medications and problems, and to form the best plan to make the pets remaining days the best they can be. Cost is dependent on the intensity of care required.
Guy and Karen Smith’s purebred big standard poodle Monte, who died a year ago this week, was a prince among pups.
“You could live a hundred lifetimes and never find another one,” Guy Smith of Black Creek said, recalling the time four years ago when the poodle protected Karen from two charging pit bulls.
When Monte was diagnosed with cancer of the spleen at Fox Valley Animal Referral, Karen ran into Hajek Adams, who she’d met years before at a horse rescue. She offered her help.
The couple was told Monte could die in a day but for sure within weeks.
“We would have done anything for a day with him,” Smith said, still choking up.
Working with Hajek Adams and Rach, the Smiths did bring Monte home. He lived four pain-free days.
“It was wonderful,” said Smith, adding that Monte was a part of the family and, for them, had the same status as a child.
Like the Smiths, Herubin’s goal also is to help Woody live his best life now.
“(Healing Heart Pet Hospice) has the same philosophy that I do: quality of life,” she said. “As long as he has quality of life and wants to be around let’s do everything we can to keep him around. … It’s like every day is a gift.”
But there are a lot of misconceptions about pet hospice, Hajek Adams said. “We have a camp that thinks this is just a way to prolong life at any cost. We have another camp that says why don’t we just euthanize these animals.”
It also is a bit of a paradigm shift for those in veterinary care.
“This certainly is not for everybody but to give somebody the option is everything,” Hajek Adams said. “It is my job to give you information. It is not my job to tell you what to do. It is my job to give you all the tools to make a good decision as an advocate for your pet.
“At the end what we have with our clients is they are still sad but the regrets are not there because you have somebody walking with you, not ahead of you and not behind you but with you to make these decisions.”
Smith has felt that comfort.
“The last few days we had Monte at home was as normal as it could be,” he said. “If we would have taken another direction, we’d always have regrets and wonder if we did it right.”
“A common misconception is that hospice emphasizes death, which is not the case,” Hajek Adams said. “Hospice care is about finding hope.”
And it’s a dignified way to say goodbye to a beloved pet — a pet like Woody.
Most days, he’s perky and happy. But three times since December his tumor has bled into his liver, and one of these times it won’t stop when it starts.
“That will be his end then,” Herubin said. “And (Hajek Adams) said it should be peaceful and not painful. He’ll just get tired and feel kind of weak and just want to sleep.”
What is hospice care?
Hospice is not a place, but a compassionate philosophy focusing on death as part of life. Palliative care is provided to the terminally ill or dying pet in the comfort of home to maximize quality of life.
Hospice care is not an intention to cure disease but intends to prevent the disease process from causing further anxiety and stress on the pet and the family.
Hospice is not an alternative to euthanasia, but provides a safe and loving environment in which to say goodbye.
When to seek out veterinary hospice care
– When euthanasia is being given as an option
– When treatment is not elected
– When the prognosis is guarded or poor
– When treatment has been sought and the patient now is in terminal stages
Hospice info
For more information on Healing Heart Pet Hospice, call 920-993-9193 or 920-450-7805
Cheryl Anderson: 920-993-1000, ext. 249, or canderson@postcrescent.com
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May 24, 2010 at 11:01 pm
Noel, Ireland
Hello Sid, I heard you on Dogcast radio podcasts and I would love to read your book (and I will!) My dog Jake was put to sleep a little over 3 weeks ago.A year and a half ago he was diagnosed with prostate cancer and nothing happened.5 weeks ago today he was diagnosed with secondary lung cancer.
Putting him to sleep went well and he died peacefully which was a great relief to me.I would say to anyone dreading this descision that it is not as bad as you may think and you have to think whats best for your pet.
In the last two days Jake would not eat or drink.A woman told me today he wouldn’t drink because he wanted to die.Is this true?
The hospice care seems great.In America you are far more advanced than the UK or Europe.There is no chemotherapy here for example.
Jake reached 15 & a half and he was a happy dog that loved life to the end.
I wish you every success with your book and website and I know from your interview with the great Julie Hill you are a very good person.
June 1, 2010 at 7:44 pm
goodgriefpetloss
Noel,
Please forgive my long overdue reply! My WordPress account was supposed to send me an alert when there was a pending reply and it suddenly stopped doing so. I apologize for not being timely in my words of sympathy to you about Jake. I am so sorry for your loss, but it definitely sounds as if you did what was best for him at the very time he indicated he was ready for being allowed to leave behind his physical body. Yes, I agree with the woman who told you that he was indicating his readiness to die when he stopped drinking. His body was shutting down, having completed its duty of bringing him through a full life on Earth.
This is a side subject, but that was true even of a human friend of mine who decided to die at home. He simply had his hospice caregivers stop giving him food or water. The instant he died, his daughter reported a Tibetan monk’s brass bowl in his room began to ring.
I agree with you, too, that when it is properly timed, the euthanasia itself is peaceful and rather beautiful. Every one of these I’ve attended has left me begging to be euthanized that same way when it’s my time. I’ve often told people that the true hell on earth is watching our beloved pets decline while we look on helplessly. When we finally make that all-important decision to let them go, we’re releasing both them and ourselves from the most intense pain. It’s a wonderful final gift to be able to give our animal companions.
As for our being more advanced in, say, cancer treatments here…I’m not sure how good a thing that is. Doctors and fearful people may opt to keep someone alive far too long simply because it’s medically possible. I had to let my mother know it was OK to stop her chemotherapy when she was dying because she thought because they COULD keep pumping her full of poisons, she was obligated to go along with it. My husband and I also had to have his uncle’s ventilator unplugged when it was clear he was ready to go. Interestingly enough, the doctors advised us that, once unplugged, people can often go on breathing for themselves for hours. He left us less than 30 seconds after the tube was removed! How’s that for ready
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June 6, 2010 at 11:42 pm
Noel, Ireland
Thanks Sid,
Its funny how animals are helped out of their pain but humans must suffer as long as possible.The vet told me old dogs can react badly to the injection but Jake just fell asleep and this really helped me although I still can get upset 5 weeks after he passed.
To be honest if chemotherapy was available for either his prostate or lung cancer I would not have put him through it.Things like the hospice care are great but Ireland is pretty backward as far as animmals goes.
I am working in an animal shelter now – the Galway SPCA and the dogs are great but some are very disturbed from abuse.7 collie puppies came in recently found in a bag in a river.Many farmers her will drown puppies and will not pay for neutering.Its sad.
From listening to Dogcast radio I know there are a lot of people in the USA (mostly women!) who are very advanced in their understanding of dogs (and cats) and it seems to me you are more humane and educated in your country.
Best of luck, Noel
June 7, 2010 at 1:11 pm
goodgriefpetloss
Hi Noel,
We may be getting our acts together about humane animal treatment in many areas here in the US, but we still have people like Michael Vick who sacrifice these wonderful creatures to dog fights as sport, greedy puppy mill owners whose animals never leave a wire cage except to be bred, and our share of general cheapskates who won’t be bothered to spay and/or neuter their pets and who use the old “bag in the river” method of ridding themselves of nuisance animals. This is not to say we aren’t, on the whole, an animal-loving nation. I just don’t want to paint a broad-stroke picture of us as all St. Francis of Assisi.
I’m glad to hear you would have weighed the benefits of prolonging a pet’s life through chemo against his/her quality of life. That’s the noble thing to do, put the animal’s needs first. Sometimes that means giving them hospice care because they really can have more good and happy experiences if we help them manage their pain, but sometimes that means releasing them from a hopeless situation. It’s a tough call, and I think you did right by Jake in how you chose.
Thank you for your responses.
Sid
September 25, 2018 at 2:14 am
Gine Oquendo
I agree with this. Our pet Missy died by giving her a peaceful sleep through pet euthanasia and we end here because we love her and we don’t want to see her suffering in pain anymore and We know, in this way we can show our love to her for the last time. Until we see each other again Missy. Please refer to this link: https://pawsatpeacepethospice.com/